Thank you for your kindness.   None of this has 'hit me' yet.   Too much too fast?   Are there still things to do with my Mom and I'm focusing on her?   I dunno.   The social worker said it may not 'hit' me until she departs this mortal coil.   Hard telling.
I still am helping my mom, who was up until the last month the one who was having problems.   Now, she is thriving --- her condition has improved while Dads declined.   She has made a friend (!), has been playing games, and his genuinely cheerful when you talk to her.   She still has dementia, so it is chit-chat, but she hasn'nt done this well in years.    I'll take it.
I just want her happy as she can be and comfortable.
But yes, the last 7 days has been just one hit after the other....
So, with that said, it's time to reset and have a little R&R starting.  Taking the advice of the social worker, care for myself for a bit.    Since they want no viewing or 'memorial' of any kind, it will just be dealing with government forms, banks, and insurance and it will probably take a little time for those to get here.
I think I'm going to either this little secluded boondocking spot or point the nose of the car south and find someplace. I'll probably be in Indiana for 2-3 days and just 'breathe' for a little bit.  It's supposed to be in the 60's mid-week.